Change: Learning To Trust by Wins Mathew

You make decisions everyday causing change. Consider for a moment, how many different decisions do you have to make in a single day. How many of those on the surface appear insignificant and how many significant? Why are the significant ones, significant? Is it because these decisions impact trajectory, influence behavior, or disrupt a process? Change is constant and is all around us.  What is not constant is how we react, adjust, and welcome change.


Over the past few years, I have had the opportunity to go through various experiences that have caused change for me, both personally and professionally. From the birth of my beautiful daughters, to being reorganized and having my job changed at work.  As I reflect on those events and many others in my life, I think about the emotions associated with it and why I had those emotions.  Having children is a blessed occasion and while I was excited, I felt anxious and afraid when both of my daughters were born. When experiencing shifts in my professional environment, I’ve felt worried and concerned by the changes ahead.  While vastly different, the experiences with my family and work have one common thread. Control. 

What I have learned about change and the negative emotions associated with it, is that we emote out of not having control of the situation.  While my wife and I planned (as best we could) to have children, I still had to give up some sort of control. Control of my schedule (goodbye sleep!), flexibility (so long me time!), and eventually knowing that I would not be able to control every single decision they make when they get older.  When my career changed, I had zero control over my new position. I was forced to fall in line and accept the change that was handed to me. 

If you are struggling with change today because of the control factor, let me tell you something.  You do not have to always be in control.  Nor does Jesus call us to always be in control.  He wants us to give up control, and let him do his thing. He wants you to trust his plan and what he has in store for your life. I promise you, you will experience the greatest freedom and peace as change comes your way, when you release control to Him. 

Trust what God has in store for you.

“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43:19

I said both the aforementioned events have one common thread, but really, they have two.  Both of these changes brought about something else. 


Learning to be a good father has helped me be a better husband, friend, and Christian. What greater way to experience Christ’s love for me than to give so freely to my children as Christ gives to us all.  The negative change at work forced me to take on a new challenge. I used the opportunity of being uncomfortable to learn. The opportunity ended up being one of the best things for my career.  We get so hung up in the here and now with change that we fail to look ahead! It is okay to be uncomfortable. It likely means that you are growing. Embrace it!  As Abraham Maslow once said, “In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or step back into safety.” 

Let us not do the latter. Let us release control to Jesus and step into the change ahead. 

David Skidmore